Sex

Story and photo by Melinda Theriault

“A scene can be a pretty extreme experience for a lot of people.”

For some Londoners, food is more than just a culinary experience, it’s a way of life. Take Steve, a member of London’s fetish and kink community.

Steve, who goes by Shrek1985 on fetlife.com—a website designed to facilitate interactions between those who engage in kink sex—explains that in the kink community, a sexual interaction is called a “Scene.”

“The scene,” Steve says, is a “fancy name for getting together with someone and having a good time.”

He uses food for healing and intimacy after sex.

When he first started out, Steve experienced what he calls “Drop” after sex.

“After I’d had someone over for a scene,” he says, “I’d usually feel drained and depressed afterwards.”

After learning more about kink, Steve realized that providing aftercare for someone else would leave him feeling more complete.

“Food was a huge part of that for me,” says Steve.

For Steve, feeding the other person—whether it is minutes or days after—can help both parties feel valued.